Tips in dealing with In-laws

24 Nov 2022
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After a marriage two families become one that means you have to build healthy relationship with your spouse’s family as well. It will get odd and awkward when you have to interact with your in-laws for the first time.

It’s very hard to create a bond with your in-laws even after interacting several times. It doesn’t mean in-laws are bad but there may occur dispute regarding opinions and expectations.

No matter how hard you try sometimes people don’t get along. In marriage this is the common situation you will have to face with your in-laws.

In Nepal, women have to move to husband’s house after marriage. People of here mostly live in a joint family that’s why also there occurs a problem for women with in-laws.

Men are highly respected in his in-laws house as they only visit occasionally but for women it’s different. They have to live in with her husband along with her in-laws for life.

When people live together, they interact with others and as we know different heads, different opinions so while communicating and observing each other in a daily basis there may be times when opinions don’t get match and things that you have done may upset your in-laws or their work and opinions may upset you.

When things go wrong you have to be calm and should have idea about dealing a fuss in your house. Here are some ideas that may help you while dealing with your in-laws.

1. Respect your marriage

When there is problem with in-laws, know that you and your husband are in the same team. It is the worst thing to put your husband in the middle of your and in-laws dispute.

You should have each other’s back to support and solve a problem rather than asking him to support against his own family.

Respecting a marriage also means to respect your in-laws and treat them as your own family. If you consider this tip your relation with your in-laws will be better.

2. Don’t ignore the problem

If you have any issue with your in-laws try to solve together in time rather than piling up and burst with anger at once.

While dealing with problems make sure it’s really a problem and try to think from each other’s perspective and solve the issue without hurting each other’s feelings.

3. Be kind and composure

You should be kind with your in-laws. Kindness is the best language of love and care.  If you treat your in-laws with kindness and maintain your calmness when they say something bad to you then obviously it helps you to build a loving relationship with your in-laws.

If you act harshly to make them taste of their own medicine, it will only heat the moment and turn the issue even bigger so better be compassionate and calm. It really helps you to handle the situation.

4. Use kind and sweet tone

Mostly a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are rude to each other. If a daughter-in-law respects her mother-in-law like her own mother and mother-in-law loves her daughter-in-law like her own daughter then the bond in the family will be strong. So be kind and talk sweetly with each other.

5. Avoid hot topics

There are many topics that lead to arguments so it’s better to avoid those topics. Topics like politics and things regarding different opinions you should avoid it.

6. Don’t criticize your spouse

No parents in the world want to hear any bad things or criticisms about their children that’s why never criticize your spouse. If you have problems better solve on your own rather than criticizing in front of in-laws.

7. Don’t expect too much

It’s natural to have expectations as a human being but don’t expect too much. We may have certain expectations from our in-laws but it doesn’t mean that they will meet your expectations as they have their own expectations and other things to do.

If you expect less you will learn to appreciate a little things from your in-laws which is very necessary for healthy relationship.

8. Know your role

You should know your responsibility in the family. You play a great role to run the family smoothly. That’s why treat your in-laws as your own family and always be there for them as possible whenever they need you.

9. Learn to forgive and accept mistakes

While living in the same roof as a family, you have to face many problems together and sometimes end up hurting each other sentiments. That’s why rather than making a big issue of a small family problems, you have to be wise and forgive similarly accept your mistakes when you are wrong.

10. Don’t involve your children

Your children are also dear to your grand-parents and children also love their grand-parents. So never involve your children between the war zone of you and your in-laws. You should know that you both are equally important for the mental and emotional growth of the children.

 

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