A wedding is the most auspicious and important day for a couple as they are going to start a new beginning in their life. Everyone wishes to have a perfect wedding ceremony and even plan as their wish but somehow they have regrets about their wedding.
In a cultural country like Nepal, a wedding is very important and emotional for a bride especially because they have to leave their home and shift to a new home of grooms’.
That’s why a woman has more curiosity and expectation regarding weddings which is also a reason to have regret later. After asking a few men and women, we have gathered some of their regrets about their wedding day which is surprising and can be very useful advice for a new bride-to-be and groom-to-be.
1. We got married 12 years ago, remembering our wedding day, it was the most beautiful moment of my life but I still have one regret that I wish to fix. I didn’t get to eat properly at that time. We’ve thrown a great party including my husband and my favorite dishes which we barely got to taste.
I was so busy at that time meeting with every guest and I was so hungry but I gave more priority to my guests rather than myself. If I could go back in time, I would not leave my food in the middle and stay hungry all day.
2. On my wedding day, I wish I had hired a renowned photographer. To save money, I hired an amateur photographer for my wedding but later looking photographs I felt I could have clicked better pictures.
Photographs are only the tangible things that could replenish our moments and memories. If I had that chance now, I would have paid extra and hired renowned photographers.
3. Overall my wedding was good, the only thing I regret about my wedding is my make-up. I felt that my make-up artist has put on heavy makeup while grooming me.
Though everyone was saying that I look beautiful but I wish I had hired some other beauty expert.
4. I wish I had hired a videographer on that day. At that time we thought photographs are enough for us to capture our’ moments and told my brother to record our video on mobile instead of professional to save money.
My brother has recorded a video only partly because he has also other responsibilities to fulfill regarding weddings.
If I had hired a professional for my wedding I would have quality videos where I could see the whole wedding process of that day.
Now I realize I had missed those opportunities to capture the most precious day of my life just to save some money. If I have a chance to go back I would surely change that.
5. A thing that I regret is about planning a wedding on my own. I should have hired a wedding planner. At my wedding, I had planned all things but later I got so tired that I looked so drowsy and stress during my wedding ceremony.
Because of that, I didn’t have the energy to celebrate the most precious day of my life at last.
I wish I had hired an event planner to manage all the decorations and events so that I could have focused all my energy on my wedding.
6. On my wedding day, I wish I had chosen the dress of my preference. Though my wedding dress was beautiful, my first choice was a beautiful light blue gown but later I wore a red one because all my friends told me that suited me more.
Now I think I should have been bold enough to believe myself and choose that dress. If I got a chance to back in the past then I will wear that blue gown.
7. I should have danced with my husband. Though we don’t dance well I think I should have danced with my husband as it was our day. But I don’t have regrets because I got him for my whole life from that day.
8. Only thing I wish is that my best friend was there as it was the most precious and lifetime moment for me. She was seriously ill so she cannot attend my wedding.
I wish she was healthy on that day and attended my wedding.
9. I wish I had preserved jewelry years earlier because gold was so expensive. So I suggest people start preserving gold four, or five years earlier before your wedding. So that it will be financially easy on your wedding day.
10. I should have been careful while choosing the banquet. The banquet didn’t provide quality food and services at my wedding.
I wish I should have researched the wedding venue before the wedding.
11. If I have a chance to get back in time and marry my beautiful wife then I will hire a DJ. On the day of my wedding, I felt so regretful that I hadn’t hired a DJ. A wedding is also a moment of celebration and celebration without dance is off.
So that to create a synergy and make the wedding ambiance energetic we have to hire a DJ. To make a complete wedding ceremony, a DJ is required. That’s why I wish I had hired a DJ.
12. Spending a lot of money on food at my wedding was my great mistake. I ordered food for guests more than necessary. At last, there was so much leftover on that day. I wish I had the right estimation of food.
13. My biggest regret getting married was not having a day of coordinator. I wish I had one instead of it being me trying to coordinate the caterer, wedding cake delivery, etc. in between getting ready for my ceremony.
By the time I got to my ceremony, I was so stressed out that I didn’t get appreciate what was happening.
Also, underestimating the number of plates of food people can eat. As my husband and I went to take pictures, we thought that we had enough food for when we were done that we could get a plate.
My husband and I had to end up eating at Outback after our ceremony because our guests cleaned up the food and there wasn’t much left for us.
If you pulls off your big 10-year day, I highly recommend the day of coordinator and making sure you overestimate the guest count when it comes to catering.
14. I had the worst wedding experience, there was a family fight, the groom’s side waiting upstairs, and my wedding dress was torn. I hadn’t had a picture with my husband as I wanted.
Though we are happily married for 20 years, I wish I could do my wedding over again.
15. A regret I have about my wedding was I was not with my bride for more than an hour. That day my wife was looking so beautiful and after 17 years still, she is.
I wanted to be with her all the time but due to friends and relatives of ours, we had to talk with them and got busy.
Later her friends took her out of my sight for more than an hour. Oh my god! I still remember that day, she looked so beautiful I wish I was with her all the time on that day.
16. I regret having my wedding during the covid time, due to pandemic we are unable to invite all the guests and whom we invite, most of them didn’t attend due to covid problems.
At last, there were only a family member of my family and my wife’s family. Later, my wife’s PCR test was positive so we are being isolated including our family members as they were in contact with us.
It was the worst experience I had on my wedding day. I wish I could do my wedding over again to celebrate it fully and have all the fun I missed that day.
17. I regret not having the wedding decoration as I wished on my wedding day. Everything was decorated according to my husband’s mother’s choice. It seems like her wedding than ours.
After spending time with her, I realize she is so sweet I wish I had the confidence to speak and tell her that I wanted to decorate my wedding this way.
18. It was heavy rain at my wedding, because of it all the way was so muddy and it was very difficult for the procession. Due to that reason, all the guests didn’t appear at the party.
So that a lot of food got remained uneaten but we are happy that we got a chance to provide that food to NGO’s children.
19. On my wedding day there was a political issue due to which there was a strike. The guest living far had difficulty attending my wedding, some of them didn’t attend. There was a problem with the procession due to the strike.
Therefore, I hadn’t that much fun at my wedding but I am happy that I got my beautiful wife that day. Now we are together for 11 years.
20. My wedding was almost perfect. The only regret that I have is my mother was seriously ill at that time. I wanted to postpone my wedding but she was so stubborn that I had to get married.
The wedding is decided on an auspicious day in Nepal so my mother wanted it to happen on that day.
I wish she was healthy that day and celebrated her son’s wedding. Though she was with us during rituals and gave her blessings but not able to stay longer with us and went to rest.
Now I have two daughters and one son with my beautiful wife. I am happy that my mother is still with us.
By Sanam Gurung